Dear Future Husband

A Letter to my Future Husband

Dear Future Husband,

At this point in my life, it's kind of hard to imagine having a husband and at the same time, it's not hard at all. Being a 19 year old Junior at a private Christian university truly shows me the eagerness of people to get married at a young age. So many people that I graduated high school with and that I have become friends with here at Ouachita or just am acquaintances with here at Ouachita are getting engaged, married, and starting families. I often find myself feeling jealous that so many people are able to find their person so early in life and are able to start early on families and such. Some days I wish that I could find you (future husband) tomorrow and we could begin our relationship so that we can get married soon, but I stop and remind myself that that is not what God has planned for us. My more reasonable and logical side knows that getting married at this age is not ideal. After my parent's young marriage fell apart, they have both encouraged me not to try to grow up so fast, but the problem with that, my dear, is that I was basically born as an old woman. I have always been more mature than expected to be and at this point am practically the embodiment of "19 going on 90." With being on the path to graduating from college a year early, I am burdened by the idea that I will be done with college and forced into the real world to scramble about for a job before I turn 21. At this point in most people's lives they would still be grasping on to the ends of their college careers so that they can continue to be a child for a little while longer and staying out too late because they can legally drink, though they have probably been drinking casually for their entire college experience. Though graduating early is certainly a path I have chosen for myself, it is still intimidating to know that I will be so young starting out in my career. Granted, I know that God is in control and His plan for me is what I put my faith in. I know that though the pressures of society around me encourage me to get married young and the thought of that excites me, that may not be in God's plan. God has picked us out for each other and He knows the exact time to bring each other into the other's life. Until them, I will continue to pray for you and about you because though I don't know you now, you are going to be one of the absolute most important people in my life, and I will pray for you then, so why not now? 

Some studies say that it's likely that you will meet the person you are going to marry by the time you turn 21, so I guess that it's possible that we have already met, but just in case we haven't yet, or we don't really know each other that well, I wanted to let you in on some things about me that could potentially be bothersome, depending on your personality I suppose. I guess you could call them tics or quirks, but they're definitely there and you should know about them. I generally can't sleep unless both of my feet are out from under the covers so sharing a blanket with you could potentially be hard. I have an obsession with things being organized, so there's a good chance that our movies will be in alphabetical order and also probably separated into genres, our bathroom counter will have to be very precisely organized, depending on if we share a closet, I will probably either color code your clothes or organize them into types of clothing, and honestly probably a lot of other organizing tics. I make lists... A lot. I honestly can't get anything accomplished unless I have it written down on a to-do list and I more than likely don't go to the grocery store without a list. I'm a bit of a germaphobe so I don't like other people to wear my hats, use my toiletries or shower stuff, etc. I HATE doing the dishes, so if there is one thing we need to bargain on, I would much rather wash toilets or something of that sort than do the dishes. I am a "what if" worrier, so I think up bizarre assumptions about situations and let them bother me and prevent me from doing things in life. I am petrified of people popping their necks so please, if you need to do that, warn me so that I can plug my ears and make a bunch of noise so I don't hear it. My socks must be matching, I cannot do mismatch. Truthfully, I dislike mismatched anything, I get anxiety just thinking about it. I itch my noise in a very strange way that often weirds people out. There are probably other quirks that I have that you won't like and that's okay. You can't like every single thing about a person and if you pretend to then that just isn't healthy for your relationship. I'm weird and I know that and I accept that. 

As for my hopes for our family, I already know that I will have a German Shepherd because that is my dream dog and I have been promised one when I graduate, and I hope that you love animals as much as I do because I will likely be the type of wife that will bring home three new puppies on some random Tuesday because I was weak and they were so precious. I also would really like to have an American Shorthair cat because they are great family cats. As for kiddos, I would love to have one baby of our own, so we can enjoy a beautiful masterpiece of our creation, but also, I am incredibly interested in adoption. I believe that everyone deserves a chance at a happy life and I would absolutely love to be able to provide that for a child who has been stripped of that privilege. As I said earlier, I promise that if you do the dishes, I will wash all of the toilets in our house AND do your laundry if that's what it takes. Speaking of houses, that's a whole different post on its own, not that you are necessarily reading my blog at this point in time, future husband, but I could write for hours about my dreamhouse. (I watch too much HGTV.) Overall, the single most important aspect of our relationship is that we put our relationship with God before our relationship with each other. We cannot have a healthy relationship without God's influence and impact on our lives and we need Him to guide us through life and through our marriage. 

I love you. You are incredible and I absolutely can't wait to meet you. 

Your truly, 

Your Future Wife, ~Em